I’m curious – how are you feeling in this moment? Are you happy, sad, frustrated, excited, angry, resentful, optimistic?
Honestly, in this moment, I’m feeling down and as crappy as it feels, I know it’s not permanent.
I know I can choose a different thought, which will give me a different feeling. I don’t have to stay feeling down.
The following quote by Glennon Doyle, the author of Love Warrior (if you haven’t read it – I recommend it!) helps me to have some acceptance around how I’m feeling right now:
“You are not supposed to be happy all the time. Life hurts and it’s hard. Not because you’re doing it wrong, but because it hurts for everybody. Don’t avoid the pain. You need it. It’s meant for you. Be still with it, let it come, let it go, let it leave you with the fuel you’ll burn to get your work done on this earth.”
I know it’s not always easy to get yourself out of a funk, but I also know it’s worth it.
I know that YOU are worth it.
Would you like to hear a couple of ways to get yourself out of a funk (whether you’re in one now, or you feel like this sometimes).
Option 1 - Avoid your feelings
To avoid your feelings you could:
Hey, I’m not judging…I’ve definitely tried to avoid my feelings!
And it works! (although the credit card bill can sting afterwards)
And it doesn’t last.
The problem with avoiding your feelings is that you’re still holding onto them. They haven’t disappeared - they’re just hiding there under the surface…just like the food lodged in the crevices of your child’s car seat :).
You know it’s there, but you’re scared to look.
You’re scared to find what’s beneath it.
You’re scared because you don’t know if you can deal with it.
You’re scared because you’re worried about how painful it will feel.
And what if you won't be able to cope with the pain?
I want you to know Mama, that it is scary, and messy and painful.
And I also want you to know that when you get to the heart of it, there’s calm, and peace and joy.